jabtome wrote:
I also highly enjoyed the stories and reading that survey. I like that over 60% of the women explicitly stated they reveled in the the unfair "we can see you but you can't see us" role reversal, and over 65% said they were looking for polite (nude) servitude from the men.
Have you ever seen or heard of anyone experiencing "post orgasm regret", where it felt good, but as soon as they came in front everyone, they regretted it?
Yes, me.
The event was the first CFNM gathering, you can read the story on the old forum replete with photos. Prior to the event, one of the women, Angela, desperately wanted to watch the men jack off. I always assumed, and wrongfully, that women weren't into the visual pleasure of that as much as men were. For her, I was clearly wrong.
At the time, she was in her upper 40s, and had a strong personalty. I wouldn't say she was into female domination, but was a woman that knew what she wanted and was unafraid to tell others. She had a younger friend, Linda, that had a very attractive figure, and they tantalized me with photos of her at the beach in a two piece. During the pre-party chatter back and forth, and, a personal meeting with her at Starbucks to discuss things, she asked "will I get to see naked men jacking off?". And I was like "Sure! You'll have a great time". She suggested a game where targets were set up and the men had to shoot their cum at the bulls-eye and the ladies would score. As she told this to me at Starbucks, I caught out of the corner of my eye some customers looking at us. I'm laughing with her because I know I'd seen such fantasies posted on forums, and the whole concept was so absurd. I was like "Yeah, right!" thinking it was all just fun talk. I NEVER thought that activity was such a big deal for her or any other women. I just assumed that fantasizing about that type of a CFNM experience was only a man's fantasy, inclusive of the act, the embarrassment, etc.
But it WAS equally as much a fantasy for her - in all the aspects of it that the men on this forum had fantasized about. I found out it was the one thing she was wanting to experience more than any other -- to demand (not ask) the naked man/men in attendance to obey her and openly masturbate to a climax while she and others watched, and all done in a CFNM scenario (ergo,
"haha! we can see you but you cant's see us"!). For her, it was the confluence of the empowerment - she was clothed, men were naked, her prurient desire to view naked men, her ability to closely observe something very private and intimate men never discuss let alone show anyone, and the ability to inflict humiliation onto the man/men doing it in a manner that puts the female victoriously over the male.
The story is retold from start to finish here - it is absolutely true without any embellishment.
http://www.sensations4women.com/mStrip/index.htmlThe issue was that this was the first CFNM party ever, and a lot of the women and men were reluctant about it. Some of the females simply wanted to tease the men and were not expecting to see one of the naked men openly jack off. Further, no other men were doing it, I was alone.
It was one of the most complicated, intense moments of my life. On the one hand, it was the fulfillment of a fantasy that some of us dream about. The other women had to have recognized I was simply complying to the females' demands, not instigating it myself. But on the other hand, I did something that I had never done in front of anyone else - yes, I'd had girls giving me handjobs and I helped finish it of, but I had never openly masturbated from start to finish in front of an audience. Further, that audience was large, and 100% of the women were clothed while I was stark naked. I also felt some homophobic issues with some of the men, sort of like "fuck, this naked dude is jacking off in front of me, this is awkward...".
During the masturbation, I was sitting on the sand trying to turn away from the crowd, and I now know she recognized my wanting to have at least some level of being discrete, because as I came, she yelled at the top of her lungs (read the write-up link) as if to blow a horn announcing it for the world. Her raspy laughter (she smoked) sounded more like she was laughing at me than a joyfully celebrating the moment with me...I dunno... I had just started ejaculating - a lot - and so everyone's attention was turned on me at the height of my cumming and were able to see what I was doing, and, witness multiple more explosions of my sperm up into the air coming down all over me and the sand. EVERYONE saw it. Ladies had turned to see the result and stood their watching the sperm drip off my naked balls.
After I came, it was weird. I was too embarrassed to fully enjoy the post orgasm bliss we always have. Further, the woman knew this was coming for me, and relished in my humiliation as much as the fun in watching (which was why she was yelling and making fun as I came - to assure everyone there was watching the moment, even laughing *at* me). But some of the females loved it, some emailed me afterward wanting to meet me on a private one-on-one romantic tryst -- I learned that when a woman sees a man doing something so intimate it can became a huge attraction for them. Yet other females simply avoided eye contact. I was embarrassed, humiliated and yet excited all at the same time.
Recently, I was approached by a woman orchestrating a CFNM party in Texas (see reference above) and I relayed this story to her. She loved hearing it and told me that at her event, requiring the men to masturbate themselves in front of the women was a "must".
If you want, I'll cut and paste the whole exchange I had with her regarding this.
The take away here is this - all women are different. Guys that think that the same erotic enjoyment men on this forum have with CFNM, including any double-standard, embarrassment, etc, is only fantasized about by men are wrong. I've learned the reason there aren't more women into it is that they simply have never been introduced to it in the right way, which I was able to do at the first CFNM party. In fact, those women I introduced to it and have experienced it often wanted CFNM parties to be a regularly scheduled event as it meets latent unanswered desires many women have, and once is not enough.
Photos:
Here I am with Angela (left) and Linda (right) has they hold my cock and balls as though it's a trophy. It was just moments before Angela issued a demand for me to masturbate. You can barely see a woman next to her, which was Denise, who was also an exotic dancer I met on match.com. Denise's match.com profile was pretty normal, as was she...she just danced for a living, and, loved the concept of CFNM. Her roommate was also a dancer and even more beautiful, and, wanted to come, but unfortunately was going to a party in N. Cal. that weekend. The photo is taken by Amethyst, a woman that was also an officer in the navy in San Diego. I met Amethyst in one of the cam chatrooms (ICUII). She would never undress yet love to get on cams and watch men get naked and masturbate. I knew she liked the female-empowerment of CFNM, so when I started to organize the party, she was like "HELL YES!".
This was the photo of Linda Angela emailed me, with "can Linda come too, she really wants to!" Uh, fuck yeah Angela. Linda was making out with me and started to stroke me right at the moment Angela told me to masturbate, and Linda said "I'm not going to do it, you have to jack
yourself off."
This is Candice, who was supposed to come, but called at the last minute backing out due to a family matter. She would go to future CFNM parties. As you can see, she's hot as Hell.
Here's a photo of some of the CFNM party participants. You can see Denise in the background (the one sitting next to Angela, Linda and me above).