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This topic thread is dedicated to actual, real-life CFNM parties and gatherings. These events are orchestrated parties and gatherings (typically by women) with the CFNM (or CFnm) theme being promoted as a primary reason for the event. Also included are events where they have developed an expectation for men to be nude while women are not based upon previous events. Not included are bachelorette/male stripper events as they are not CFNM parties.

Featured are images of the actual invitations, promotional material and web links for others to use to get invitations. It is up to the members to ascertain whether the nature of the CFNM gathering is to their liking.


*Criticism is only allowed from those that have attended similar events as opposed to those that with no real experience in orchestrated CFNM gatherings, and therefore have no basis to judge.



San Francisco

CFnm Bay Area Group

Ms. Amy hosts CFnm parties in the Bay Area:
http://cfnmsf.wix.com/cfnm

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Toronto

Oasis Aqualounge

Oasis Aqualounge purports to "enhance the experience of couples", although both single men and women are allowed. I was approached by one of the females of Aqualounge a couple of years ago in getting advice on how to orchestrate CFNM parties. They have since held many CFNM gatherings. One smart move on their part is to have a cover charge of men and couples at $50, yet all single women can attend for free. This makes it a delightful experience for ladies that want to experience a CFNM event while also keeping the ratio well balanced. Their website link and video are below. If you live in the area or plan to visit, they post dates for their next CFNM parties on their website. You can call them to get more information.

One past event: http://oasisaqualounge.com/event/cfnm-c ... e_id=28337
YouTube: https://youtu.be/TreySNV0qAk


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The Ball's Out CFNM Party

I was contacted by Michelle Lacy, the female that orchestrates these events, a couple of years ago. She wanted to ask me about CFNM events, and I helped her with the orientation. She was very friendly and excited about hosting her first CFNM party. But folks should know, she's part of a group of impassioned female dominants that can be very harsh in their enjoyment and humiliation of naked men, so it's not for everyone (I wouldn't go just because I'm into that harsh femdom scene, but many CFNM enthusiasts are, so have fun!). She is also a professional dominatrix as are a number of the other women organizing these events.

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In our private messaging, she told me about her desire as follows:

"Mistress Bella and I are very much into more humiliation themed parties. Because femdom parties (just slaves serving, no humiliation) are all over the place and we really wanted to be able to indulge in humiliation. Small penis humiliation. Forced-bi. Forced masturbation. On top of that, some servitude and BDSM activities. But we truly want to be catered to. The guys come in the door, and they are OURS to control and if we like, ridicule. Of course if we had the party, we would promote that it was humiliation in nature and forced-bi friendly. We also know that while some love humiliation, forced-bi is a hard limit. So that was why I came up with the idea of colored bracelets the guys wear. A certain color meant they were for or against something and it would be an easy reminder to the Mistresses playing to not force someone to do something they didn't want to, or keep harping on it."

She also posted the following on a blog:

"Balls to the Wall, for those of you who do not know, is a very wild combination of a femdom event with traditional BDSM play between Dominant women and submissive men, and a CFNM party with male servants on display, humiliated, playing games, and truly abused for the amusement of the women, held in South Florida. While it first began as a CFNM party, it morphed into a combination and meshes perfectly and suites the wide variety of appetites of the women who attend.

It has become so popular, it has attracted out of state subs and Dommes who have come here just for the occasion, some even flying back home the same day. The subs going don't even understand how we get so many hot dominant women in the same party, as not only is our party filled with Pro Dommes, but also Pro Dommes in training, curious vanilla girlfriends, lifestyle women looking to learn how to dominate their husbands at home, or women who are just seeking to do something wild and crazy at the expense of some collared and tied-up slaves.

When Mistress Bella and I began planning Balls to the Wall, we wanted a wild party where women could let loose and truly do anything they wanted with the subs (within limits of course). A party of this nature must be discrete and very private. We want the party to be invite-only with returning regular submissives and very few newbies. We have achieved that."


Her naming the event "Balls Out", is of course, a double play on words...the men's balls are literally out and exposed, and, it's an extreme femdom event. Of course, she's a professional dominatrix, as are a lot of the other women there. But that doesn't mean they do not enjoy CFNM equally as the unpaid women that simply attend these events to enjoy them.

Past Event:
http://mistressmichellelacy.ticketleap. ... 2nd-3-9pm/

Her website:
http://www.michellelacy.com/

Email inquiries (only serious inquiries!)
MichelleLacy85@yahoo.com


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CFNM Parties - Vancouver, BC (Canada)

There are a number of women in the Vancouver area that host CFNM (or CFnm parties). Below is just one of the listings.

On July 19, 2015, some of these ladies will be hosting a "CFNM Bootcamp". It is taking place in a dance studio, and is hosted by a woman that is a professional choreographer. Only men will be on the stage, and all will be completely naked. All women will remain clothed, and be sitting in fold-out chairs around the studio floor watching the choreographer put the men through dance training.

Another event in Vancouver in a different location, some of these women are hosting a CFnm gathering with "forced-bi" activities. For many members here, this is way beyond their level of comfort. But in all fairness, can't women enjoy the same erotic pleasure of watching men engage each other in sexual acts just as many men love to watch girl-on-girl? Me personally...no, I could not engage in bisexual activity for eager clothed women to watch. But for many guys, the "forced" component fits well with their desire for salacious submissive acts solely to please the dominant women. So for them, it's a win-win for the clothed females as well as the naked males.

One of the positives about these Vancouver CFNM events is that they only charge the men and women around $10 to $20 each to attend, depending upon the venue. This tells us that all going - men and women alike - do it because they simply love CFNM in all its aspects, not because they are paid femdom events done more for money for the women than their true enjoyment.

I do not like to identify people and specific venues/locations on the forum in posts given there are thousands of lurkers and trolls that love to anonymously cause grief to others (so please don't identify this website if you know it). However, if you live in British Columbia and would like to get connected with some of these CFNM parties, drop me a PM.


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Hampton Roads CFNM Group Site

Another site hosted by females interested in organizing CFNM parties is in the Hampton Roads area. The site indicates it is for people in the Hampton Roads area of Virginia - Hampton, Norfolk, Newport News, Virginia Beach, Suffolk, Chesapeake, Portsmouth and the surrounding areas, who have an interest, fetish, are curious or otherwise interested in the phenomena known as "Clothed Females, naked males".

On the "About & Rules" introduction page, the woman that created the site put together the following linked website to educate others as to how she enjoys CFNM parties, and what she and the other ladies expect to experience.

After reading it, one might conclude the "how-to" page is more like a man's fantasy, and thus question its authenticity. After conducting research, I learned this is real, and the women are real. 4 women are designated group leaders, and you'll find their profiles, although more women apparently attend these events. So regardless of who published this tripod website, their linking to on their main page clearly means they are in agreement with all of the rules and expectations of it, and I've learned that indeed these things are what they've done in past CFNM parties.


Here it is:

http://cfnm-how-to.tripod.com/

Given some of these tripod.com websites seem to all of a sudden disappear, here is a cut & paste of the contents of that site:

How to start your own CFNM party

What is the purpose of this CFNM page?

I decided to put together this page to hopefully answer questions that other women (and even men) may have about CFNM parties. Hopefully I can help other women get started with their own CFNM parties. It's easy and I have come to realize just how fun these parties are, far more fun then I even imagined when we first started. CFNM is NOT just a big sex party or orgy like many think, not even close. You could obviously make it that way if you wanted, and I know there are many types of CFNM parties out there today, and all are quite different from what I've seen or heard from others. Our parties are not a big sex party and we make sure they do not become that. Keep in mind you can apply your own rules, it's up to you to define you own party and choose your own males to participate, but I will go over my rules below. The one general rule in all of them is that the male is completely naked and the woman are all completely clothed. These parties are really alot of fun, and we actually have a waiting list of women that want to join our next party! I will try to answer all the questions below.

What really is a CFNM party?

CFNM stands for "clothed female, naked male". It's a woman's party where all women are fully clothed and the male (usually just one, sometimes more) is completely naked. His job is to do whatever "any" woman at the party tells him to do. His primary role is to bring them drinks and wait on them, although it's guaranteed the women will be requesting him to perform other "duties" throughout the night. Although at our party there is not much sexual contact between the man and the women, this is not a G-string party, the man will have no clothes at all. The women may sometimes grope or fondle him, but usually that is to make him hard or keep him hard in front of all the women. Often that is accomplished by rubbing his stomach and thighs but women can do whatever they want. It's "reversing the tables" where the women are usually viewed as sex objects, whether its strip clubs, dancing women, women in magazines, etc.... where the woman is always wearing little or no clothing and the men are all viewing. The CFNM parties give the women a sense of power, and a sense of domination over the male, as the male is completely naked while all women remain clothed the entire party. The male usually feels very embarrassed and humiliated, some more then others depending upon the male. Don't be surprised if you make him blush alot, it's all part of the party and the women love this. It's also easy to find males for these parties, as even though they know the rules and know they will be naked, humiliated, embarrassed, and any other possible emotion you can think of, many men want to be able to say they experienced this at least once in their lifetime, as nothing in their life will ever allow them to know what this really feels like unless they are put in this situation with many clothed women.

So the man is naked the whole time?

Yes. Naked from start to finish, everything off.

The man does everything he is told?

Yes. We go over this with him over and over again before he's selected. We do not want aggressive males or exhibitionist, etc. We actually get to know the man first through discussions over the internet or on phone, etc. This isn't a situation where we meet him, he's invited, and the party is next week. We have a lot of men right now that want to participate in the next party. We choose who the next participant will be. The male must agree to do everything he is told by any woman at the party. We do not cross the line and tell him to do anything that would physically hurt him in any way, or get him arrested, and we tell him that up front. Anything else is fair game, he absolutely must be willing to do what any woman tells him to do at the party no matter how embarrassing or humiliated he is feeling.

What things are considered over the line?

For example we will not have another female with a strap on and using it on the man. I'm sure some CFNM parties do that, we keep ours more professional then that. We will make him vulnerable and very embarrassed but not abuse the man, that's just not right and our party is not that way. We will not send him outside naked where he can be arrested, those things are obviously over the line.

So all the women have their clothes on, and they remain clothed the whole party?

Yes. We actually recommend the women coming to our party do not wear revealing outfits either, as this makes the man feel even more vulnerable. We have had times where women have exposed their breasts to the male, but that's just temporary to see how he "reacts" to that ;-) When we invite new women to the party we make sure they understand these rules and to dress appropriately, but we do want them to dress comfortable because this is a party for the women.

Does the male get hard?

Of course, we make sure he does as that's a big part of his humiliation and embarrassment, and it's a lot of fun for all the women there to witness this. He will not only get hard but most of the party he will remain erect as the women keep it that way, it's much more embarrassing to the man not only being naked in front of women, but being hard in front of them also. As I said there is not much sexual contact going on, but usually you get the man hard just by talking dirty, or rubbing his thighs and stomach. As I said the women can do whatever they want. If he's not getting hard the women may show their breasts to him and watch his reaction, and maybe fondle him a bit if he's still not hard yet, but that's usually a last resort. All men are quite different, we've had some men get hard immediately when their clothes are taken off, and we have had other men stay soft. You can tell the shy ones ;-) ... they usually are nervous and not hard, but we make sure that it changes quickly. One of the funnest times of the night always seems to be when the man first comes in the room (already naked of course) and he's soft, and as he goes around meeting the women it's fun to see which one makes him get hard. Sometimes you can tell he's trying to fight it and he's nervous, but when there is nothing to hold it down or hide it in any way, the outcome at our party is inevitable ;-)

Where do you meet the men for your next party?

You would be surprised how many men want to do this. We turn away many of them. The men that say "pick me, pick me, pick me" have no chance at our party. We don't want ex-male strippers or exhibitionist, or any men that are arrogant or aggressive in any way. You can find them on various sex sites, chat rooms, message boards, etc. It's actually pretty easy once you start looking for it. Most of them drive from a ways away, some have even flown in to participate in our party. We also talk to him live on webcam before the party gets close. This is key as you need to make sure you know what he looks like. You can also get to know him better this way and find out what type of man he is, how far he's willing to take it, and how far he's willing to test himself :-) Only 1 or 2 women tops should get to know him this way first though, as you want him to feel very uncomfortable the first time he enters a room full of women. As I said it may be very embarrassing and humiliating for him at the party, but there are many men that want to say they experienced this at least once in their lifetime. No matter how much a man reads about it, he will never really know what it's like until he's stripped naked and put in this situation with many clothed women. Nothing can prepare a man for this unless he goes through with it.

Is the male ever from your area?

No, always from further away. I'm sure he doesn't want to see 2 co-worker women arrive to the party, and he's standing there naked and hard. That's why the male always comes from some other location. I would actually like to see how embarrassed he would be and see the look on his face when 2 co worker women come in though. But then again I do want him to be able to go back to work again the next day ;-)

Does the man have to be young and in great shape?

No, we have had many different aged men participate, but obviously he can't be a slob. Remember this is eye candy and a party for the women, it's fine to be older as long as you look like you eat right and take care of yourself and workout. You don't have to be 5% body fat, but you can't have a big beer belly either. Look at it as a reason to get in shape, it's healthy and you shouldn't need a CFNM party to convince you to eat right and workout a bit :-)

What requirements do you need from the man?

We tell the male these things up front. He must be completely sober. He must do anything he's told by any woman, as stated earlier. No bartering or thinking about it, if she tells then you must continue and do it. The male must shower before arriving, he should smell good. Must be well trimmed , it's fine to have a hairy chest as woman love playing with that ;-), but keep it trimmed and keep "everything else" well trimmed. Figure it out guys, men don't want a woman who has a big hairy kitty, and women don't want that from a man either. Trim it! Get yourself a trimmers at the store and keep it well trimmed. It doesn't matter if you are trimmed or shaved, but you will not participate if you are not one of those 2.

Do the women make the man masturbate in front of them?

I'm sure you already know this is a yes. Usually at the end of the night when the party is ending. It's not uncommon to tell him to start masturbating a bit earlier in the night and then have him stop immediately and continue serving drinks with a hard on. Making him masturbate a bit first is good way to make him fully hard while serving drinks, just make sure he doesn't do it enough to cum, that's for the end of the night. There have been times where the party ended and we didn't make the man masturbate, it varies on the party and the man participating of course. Normally if he seems somewhat like the shy or nervous type, then we will always make him masturbate in front of all of us ;-)

Do the women make the man cum?

No. We have talked about it though and will probably do this in the future. Usually he has to masturbate and we all watch him cum, as that is very humiliating for the man. In the future I'm guessing there may be a mixture of masturbation or having a woman give him a handjob or a tied down handjob (like you see in those video clips where the man is restrained, given a handjob, and then when he gets really sensitive after cumming, the women continue to stroke him and watch him squirm. We haven't done it yet but this may be in our future parties. These video clips are all over the internet if you haven't seen them yet, seems like alot of fun ;-)

Don't the women want to grope the man during the party?

Yes, some do and many rub the mans stomach and legs. Some will stroke him a bit to keep him hard throughout the night. However we don't want a lot of sexual contact, that's not what the party is about. The real benefactor is the husbands and boyfriends, because the women go home at night in a very special mood ;-)

Are all women single at the party?

Some single, some married. The married women do tell their husbands and I encourage them to do so, and as I said the women do not have to grope the male. The husbands really get the benefit of this when the women go home that night.

Do you video tape the parties?

No, as I stated we keep it very professional. Some women bring video cameras to the party, but they need to leave them at the door. If the male agrees then I would have no trouble allowing this, but since we normally have fairly shy men as the participant, they are often quite embarrassed and do not want to be video'd anyways.

Is there more then one man?

We have tried more then one, but men are really a lot more comfortable when other men are around. Men are much more vulnerable when they are by themselves in front of the women, so we prefer just one man. I guess it would be fine if you had a large enough place to keep them apart, but thats up to you. I know other CFNM parties do it.

What is the process for getting the man naked?

This is not strip show, some CFNM parties may be and I'm sure many women would enjoy that, but not ours. We don't bring in strippers, we recruit men that are nervous or somewhat shy as we all just seem to love that, it's our style. Getting the man naked is one of most critical points of the party, because once naked he can't back out. If he's considered overly shy then as soon as he gets in the door he is stripped naked, there is no time for him to discuss leaving. He goes from being nervous outside to being inside and naked, no "in between" time. His clothes are bagged and taken away to another room so he has no idea where they even went. Out of sight, out of mind, all done very quickly. If he's more confident and you are sure he won't back out, then we often bring him into the room in front of all the women, and have a few women dance all over him and slowly remove his clothes during the dance.

I want to host a CFNM party, can you walk me through it?

Sure, I will also give you the critical moments to help you get started. It's up to you to recruit the guy of course, get the type of man you want, your style, the look you want, etc. You can find him on various sex sites or dating sites, many free sites to choose from so spend some time recruiting and talking to him. I normally float the CFNM idea to him and explain it a bit to see how he reacts. If he's a little shy about it and doesn't think he could ever do it, then normally I convince him that he can :-) I've gotten good at this, and like I said many men want to experience these emotions, and there just isn't any way to do it unless you are put in that situation for the first time. Assuming you have the man arriving and you have your party with women waiting, you want to get him on the phone, make sure he's not too nervous and keep him reassured it is an experience he should participate in.

Now that you have it that far, here's how it plays out. 2 women meet him in the yard as he arrives, all other women wait inside. These need to be the 2 women he has been talking to previously as he is comfortable with them (Those also are the only 2 women he has met or talked to from the party, it's important that every other female is a complete stranger to him in the house, as this adds a lot of discomfort to the male. Wave him in so he knows he found the right place. Once he arrives you walk him to the door and have him kick his shoes off outside by telling him no shoes in the house (this is a critical step, he has to get naked anyways so get his shoes off now). If he seems very nervous then once he steps in the house, all other women should "not" be visible to him yet, they should be in another room. Remember he might be nervous and seeing a bunch of women staring at him may make him get "cold feet". At this point the 2 women strip him naked as soon as he's in the door. Use 2 women because it can be much quicker and much more intimidating to him, one gets the shirt off him and the other gets his pants undone and pants and underwear off quickly. Have a garbage bag waiting by the door. Quickly bag his clothes, shoes, everything, and one of the 2 women quickly disappears with his clothes in the bag and stashes them away in a back room somewhere where he has no idea where it even went. At this point he just went from being somewhat shy and questioning if he can do it to being completely naked in the house and his clothes gone somewhere. There was no "in between" time for him to get "cold feet" or to think about backing out, as now he's naked and the party can start. Now bring him into the room where all the women can see him and have him go around and meet all the women. Whether it's 4 women, 12 women, or 30 women, it makes the male extremely awkward and humiliated in front of all the women when he is the only one naked. Don't be surprised if his face turns somewhat red ;-) If he's not very shy, then it's good to bring him in front of the women and do a dance/strip as I mentioned earlier. Keep in mind you can do this however you want or even experiment with other techniques. Share your best ideas with other women and see what works best for them also.

Do the women attending the party have to be young and all look good?

Absolutely not! We prefer many different types of women. We want older and younger, and different types of women as this makes the man more humiliated in front of all that variety. Nothing can prepare a man for that.

How many women are attending your parties?

It all started with 5 of us. Quickly it grew and is usually in the 20's now. It's a lot of fun also because all of us get along so good and it's a very mixed crowd of ages and people. They like to party! We bring in a few new ones now and then as some people don't show for parties, but the same group is normally always there.

Do you have these at your house?

We rent a house for the party.

Do some men not show?

We always talk to him regularly up until the he arrives, but usually only 2 women. I believe it's critical to meet him outside, when he drives up he needs to be reassured he's got the right place and all the cars may make him nervous on top of it. We want to car pool as much as possible ;-) He does not know how many women will be inside, this often causes a small shock when he first walks in naked. ;-)

I am a female, how can I attend the next party?

Sorry but there is already a waiting list and we just can't let too many women in the house. The party is already getting quite large. You can always start your own though, it's much easier to get started then you think. The key is also to have a lot of people you love partying with and get the techniques down with practice. Party practice makes perfect and you will get better and better at it. :-) Keep in mind also that you can define your own type of CFNM party, it doesn't have to be exactly like mine. You may want different type of males, maybe you want the stripper type, everyone likes different things.

I am a male, how can I participate?

You can't. If you are the type that comes begging to do it then you probably aren't our type anyways. There are a lot of other CFNM parties, and many different types, I'm sure they would love to have you :-)

Can I contact you?

Not here, this is just a information page. I am always looking for the next male for the next party, and I'm out there right now talking to them ;-) Plus I don't want the guys that read this page, it's better if they don't know a lot of the information I have given you here.

One last thing, can you give me some of your CFNM ideas?

Sure. I love the moment the male enters the room. It's the first time he sees all the clothed women and it's the first time he's naked in front of all of them. I also love the moment when he first gets hard. Usually that's quite embarrassing for a man to be naked and talking to a woman, but to get hard and not have a way to hide it is alot of fun to watch. All men are different, and we have a little game we always play to see who can make him hard first without touching. Another great thing is of course making him masturbate in front of everyone, men are very vulnerable to that act and this is another great moment. Another one is having some women arrive an hour after him. Once he's remotely comfortable after being around the women in the room, get him good and hard when others are arriving and when there's a knock on the door tell him to answer it. It's great seeing his reaction as he opens the door for women arriving and he's fully erect during it. Another one is of course having him bring drinks to women all night, that's a given. One time we told the male to masturbate for 10 seconds every time he gets a new drink, because he must be fully erect to walk back with the drink to the woman. I can go on and on, but I think you get the idea. The more parties you do the more ideas you come up with. You can also go to Google and find many, many ideas with a little research.

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Again, I don't want to post actual links to real people and real events given the large number of members (and trolls) on this forum. Anyone interested should PM me and I'll direct you to the females that organize these CFNM gatherings in Virginia

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The Vancouver CFNM group announced a CFNM magic show on June 30. They've hired a professional magician hired, and are going to make it hard for him to hide things...he'll have to perform completely naked for the ladies. The other men attending will be nude also, and after the show, a party will commence. The hostess says everyone should likely be able to see "a lot of masturbation".

The point is that women going to CFNM or CFnm vary considerably insofar as expectations of the naked men. Some only want quiet servitude from them, others want them to perform, make themselves erect, then, have a game of watching all the men jack off. So one should never assume what to expect. Obviously, the ladies in Vancouver are visually oriented in a very fun way.

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For those in mid-to-northern California, and, particularly in the SF Bay Area, you're lucky in that you're in one of the most CFNM-friendly environments on earth. The first CFNM tea party was orchestrated in SF in 1990 by four famous female authors and literary icons. Here is a CFnm event coming up on Oct. 10. It is like a black tie masquerade type ball. The men will be wearing topcoats and top hats, but must remain naked from the waist down with their penises and balls on full display at all times.

Normally, I do not put up links to REAL events where nasty trolls with sad lives can create havoc, however, I wish to support these events. In the event I'm contacted by the hostesses indicating trolls from our site has invaded their operations, I will cease all link postings.

This specific organization is 100% run by females, and is orchestrated such that the females' enjoyment are always the priority. To attend a SF CFnm event hosted by these ladies, go here:

Ongoing CFnm Parties in San Francisco

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Saw this on Craigslist:

http://orangecounty.craigslist.org/tlg/5412150033.html

Have no idea if it is real or a "pic collector."

" Looking for a few athletic / good looking guys to staff our CFNM-themed Valentine's Party! CFNM for those not in the know, stands for Clothed Female Nude Male. We are members of a social women's group in the area and host several CFNM-themed gatherings throughout the year. If you're still curious, google search the acronym for a better idea =P.

Around Valentine's Day each year, my girlfriends and I throw an all-girls Valentines-themed party about a week before V-day. This is a girls-only type of thing and while our guy friends aren't allowed - guys serving as our waiters are! We actually host similar parties throughout the year during Spring Break, Summer, a Back-To-School themed party as well as our year-end gala which is the Holiday Party.

We're looking to hire good looking guys to "wait" our party. You will be at the beck and call of guests present and also double as "eye candy". Your duties will generally be serving snacks, cocktails, cleanup, etc. We prefer guys to be either slim/toned (runner/swimmer/surfer build) or tastefully muscular (nothing too over the top). You should be comfortable with your body image and be able to mingle with the guests/carry on a conversation without getting awkward, all the while ensuring that snacks and cocktails are distributed among the guests, as well as picking up/cleaning up as the night goes.

We do not have a preference in regards to age or race - anyone is welcome to submit interest and be considered. For reference, our oldest server was in his late 50s (although with the physical condition he was in, he could pass for early 40s) and our youngest server was 18 - a college student in his freshman year in college. Candidates will be selected primarily based on their personality/conversational abilities (as picked up through email exchanges), and more importantly - how they look - inside and out of clothes (please note our attire for male servers at this event).

Attire : Last year's party, we had male waiters working the party while wearing jockstraps. This year, we're stepping things up a notch by deciding that the male server attire will simply be a red bowtie, wearable "Cupid" wings and a waistpouch (to hold cash tips) - while everything else "hangs out" - in other words, male servers will need to be comfortable working the party nude (see the CFNM theme). We expect around 90 to 100 guests at our party this year, so you should be comfortable being nude around that many ladies. No one is getting frisky at the party - but we definitely want some eye candy - and guys who are comfortable with that idea and being in the nude will be strong contenders to be hired. You WILL be handsomely compensated in exchange for working in this "exposed" state.

Pay is $40 per hour + any tips you may make while serving the guests. You are paid CASH at the end of your shift. This is a great opportunity for a side gig on the weekend - maybe you're saving up to pay for a fancy Valentine's Day gift for your significant other or just need some extra cash to pay some bills! If you are able to stay all seven hours for the entire shift, we'll toss in an additional $20 bonus. In other words, if you can work the full shift, you will be guaranteed at least $300 CASH which includes the hourly pay and the $20 bonus. Any tips you earn during your shift is yours to keep.

Guests will be ladies in their mid 20s to late 50s - dress code will be eveningwear or cocktail dresses. Again, this is NOT a dating scene or networking event, you're here to serve the guests and make sure they have a great time, not flirt with them. Your primary focus will be guest service and satisfaction - not whether you can snag their digits =P.

We're aiming for Saturday evening, February 6th for the Valentine's Party. The party itself is about 7 hours (5pm to 12 midnight we're thinking, subject to change) - and will be held at a private residence (Address will be provided upon confirmation). If you are unable to stay the entire time, but can at least work 4 hours, we can still consider you. We will be making hiring decisions as we get closer to the party date. We are looking to hire 11 to 15 guys for this event.

If you'd like to be considered - please send a head to toe front/back nude shot - this is so we can determine whether you'd be a good fit to staff our party. Again, please refer to the server attire described above and understand that you will wear very little cover while working this event - so you should be comfortable with your body image and being around 90-100 women who will be attending the party. Please be sure you understand the server attire (described in full detail above, before you submit interest. Server attire is not negotiable). Also include your name, age, physical stats and preferred contact method (phone # or email) as well. For your privacy, all photos submitted will be used solely to consider you for the gig and will be deleted after view. If you have worked (not just applied) for any of our events in the past, please indicate that in your submission as you will have priority consideration."


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sandiego - https://sandiego.craigslist.org/csd/tlg/5411342271.html - https://archive.is/mf5kD
miami - https://miami.craigslist.org/mdc/tlg/5402068987.html - https://archive.is/SAAF8
phoenix - https://phoenix.craigslist.org/cph/tlg/5402072015.html - https://archive.is/4u4FK
dallas - https://dallas.craigslist.org/dal/tlg/5402096560.html - https://archive.is/gSw0r

I don't know how the website works, but if the party is the same in each city I wish you bon voyage!


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Good catch seeing the duplicate post.

Unfortunately, it kinda sounds like a possible scam job or blackmailer


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hehe...

good catch on the multiple cities....

this does seem scammy, but I thought on the odd chance it's legit, someone here would know....

One thing that seems suspicious is they ask for a name. And also, if the pics were "just to determine fitness" they should be okay with underwear or at least a blocked out face.


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A couple of the links have now been blocked from the Craigslist reporting side of things ...
SO I would assume that the whole deal is a bit shady.

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90% sure it's a scam. The distance between San Diego and Miami is about 2,300 miles, so it's doubtful they are hosting parties in both locations or having folks travel that far. It's probably why the posts are routinely being deleted by Craigslist.


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FEMDOM ALERT!

If CFNM femdom isn't your thing, don't post a response of condemnation - just move on to the next post!

In a different forum more dedicated to CFNM and the D/s world (CFnm), which is about female domination, I've learned that they sometimes host CFNM parties in the London area that the primary theme is ballbusting. No, not my thing (OUCH!!) - I want her to make it feel GOOD, right?

A fellow by the name of Lightning Jack posted how he attended one such party, which was organized by local people into BDSM/femdom. All men were naked, but the women were, in general, all clothed. Some of the ladies he said were hot. The ladies were allowed to kick any man in his balls they pleased, and even had games involving CBT and ballbusting, including a "last man standing" competition.

These parties are now more official, and the ladies that organize them make it a pay-to-play gathering. Click on the link to below to go to the hostesses official registration site for the "Nutbuster's CFNM Party":

Miss Kitty Bliss's Nutbuster's CFNM Party


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A group of girls in New Jersey looking for guys willing to serve nude:
http://www.collarspace.com/default.asp? ... 332&bhcp=1


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A group of girls in New Jersey looking for guys willing to serve nude:
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This is their reviews posted.

2/18/2016 2:50:37 PM: Haven’t posted lately. We took a hiatus over the holidays except for one wine and cheese just before Xmas. Frankie came over and like the rest, he stripped outside and came in naked. Frankie was especially embarrassed for some reason. Maybe it was because he had a micro dick. A real peanut sized penis and we made sure he knew it.Frankie did his duty serving us some wine and a selection of cheeses. We often giggled at his tiny member but after he got used to us, he seemed to relax a bit. The problem with Frankie, however is that he tended to be annoying.He knew the ground rules and tried to break them over and over, telling us his cock would grow if we touched it, asking if we’d allow him to jerk off on our feet and lick it up, etc. etc.Ellen and I left the room for a few minutes and came up with a perfect solution to Frankie. We came back in and following another annoying comment from him, we told him that because it was Xmas, we had something very special in mind for him.I produced a chastity device and instructed him to put it on. He was visibly confused but we all assured him he’d get the most amazing Xmas present if he complied. Reluctantly he put the device on and turned the key. I instructed him to place the key in an envelope and write his address on the outside.Once he did that, I sealed the envelope and placed a stamp on it.“Now,” I said, “it’s time for you to get dressed and leave us.”Frankie was dumbfounded. “Don’t worry,” I said. “You’re getting a really special Xmas gift – a pair of blue balls to hang on your tree.”I told Frankie that we’d mail the key to him in the morning. Ok, so maybe I waited a week. Wonder if it got lost in the mail?

10/16/2015 6:46:53 PM: We decided to celebrate Columbus Day with an Italian theme. Paolo, an exchange student from north of Rome, was invited over. He served us some really nice aged Gaja red wine and we had him slice up a wedge of Parmesan cheese. Yummy. Two of us pretended to be named Nina and Santamaria. His English was a little spotty when all of us were talking at once, but his Pinta sure was hard. Once we finished with our service, we took out a plain wooden chair which had no arm rests. On it we put a 14 inch dildo with a rubber cup on the ball's end. We told Paolo that the sea was treacherous and a storm was brewing. He better batten down the hatches.We had him sit right down on that dildo to ensure his Pinta would be anchored safe at sea. Then we told him he'd better take control of his ship and make sure it stayed right on course. 'Nina' and 'Santamaria' blew into his ear, telling him the winds were whipping up and he better keep stroking straight ahead. We had him bounce up and own on the dildo, because the sea was getting rough. Soon, he popped a huge load into a little plastic cup we were using just for the occasion and 'Nina' plopped it right in his mouth before he knew what happened. He tried to get up but we pushed him right back down on that massive dildo until he swallowed every drop of the salty sea.'Oh look,' Nina said, 'you got some sea foam on your lips. Clean it up with your tongue.'Everyone giggled and Paolo left with a salty sea taste in his mouth and a sore bum.

10/12/2015 7:01:48 PM: An odd session with Joe who was in his 50s and disgustingly obese. So obese in fact that when he walked into the room nude I wanted to barf. We couldn't even see his dick he was so fucking fat.He had to be warned more than once not to touch us with that monstrous belly. UGH. I was so revolted. So much so that I decided to put an end to the session early. Sarah gave him a tiny plastic cup -- like the type they used to measure child doses of liquid medicine and told him to get stroking and eating.What a sight. He was sweating profusely and I told Sarah if he had a heart attack and died there we were going to drag him out into the creak and leave him there for the wild animals.His dick was so fucking small. OMG. The tiniest I've ever seen. He popped in under 30 seconds and gulped it down. Can't imagine that was enough of a meal for the porker.Then he wanted to use the bathroom and I told him to go pee in his car. There was no way that ass was going on my toilet bowl.

10/5/2015 9:09:55 PM: Oh wow! What a session. Robert came over and was already familiar with the drill....he got naked on the porch and came in. He brought along cheese which we promptly threw out because you can never be too safe. He spent the better part of the hour very hard, serving us wine and our own cheese, as well as some great rice balls made to a recipe by Wolfgang Puck. He never got soft and by the time it was time to perform for us he was dripping. Simply oozing.Sarah was a wee bit tipsy and she decided to mix things up a little bit.She sat on a chair and told him to lie on the floor with his head pointing toward the chair and his feet away from the chair. He could get a decent glimpse of her panties from that angle. She instructed him to start stroking and get himself close to the edge.We all watched wondering what she had on her mind. After a fairly short while he said he was very close to cumming and she told him to hold back for a minute.She asked two of us to get on either side of her and lift Robert's legs up over his head while she placed her feet on his face. She told him to continue to jerk for us and beg to cum.The poor guy was so turned on it didn't take long before he said he was about to pop. And just as the first squirt came out Sarah removed her feet and all the cum squirted hard and heavy down the poor boy's throat and all over his face! He gagged a bit.Oh it was soooo hot. He was so humiliated -- especially when Sarah said, 'you didn't think I was going to get my feet dirty did you? Now leave.'

9/15/2015 4:24:04 PM: A first for us. Four boys to serve us wine and cheese and clean up in the nude. Afterward we had them all come outside to jerk off in the sun. We video taped the entire thing and uploaded a 3 minute edited video on Hamster of us watching the four boys jerking off in the backyard. That was a hot ending to a multi-boy service day. They were all able to get really hard too, making it even more fun. Afterwards, Sarah thought it would have been even more fun to have them jerk each other off. Food for thought.Search for the video yourself. Not wasting time on you dirt bags who keep asking for it.

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Is this legit? pretty similar to a post above

https://losangeles.craigslist.org/lgb/t ... 80020.html

Looking for a few athletic / good looking guys to staff our CFNM-themed Holiday Party! CFNM for those not in the know, stands for Clothed Female Nude Male. We are members of a social women's group in the area and host several CFNM-themed gatherings throughout the year. If you're still curious, google search the acronym for a better idea =P.

At the end of each year, my girlfriends and I throw an all-girls "Holiday" themed party about a week before Christmas. This is a girls-only type of thing and while our guy friends aren't allowed - guys serving as our waiters are! We actually host similar parties right around Valentine's Day, Spring Break, Summer, a Back-To-School themed party as well as our year-end gala which is the Holiday Party.

We're looking to hire good looking guys to "wait" our party. You will be at the beck and call of guests present and also double as "eye candy". Your duties will generally be serving snacks, cocktails, cleanup, etc. We prefer guys to be either slim/toned (runner/swimmer/surfer build) or tastefully muscular (nothing too over the top). You should be comfortable with your body image and be able to mingle with the guests/carry on a conversation without getting awkward, all the while ensuring that snacks and cocktails are distributed among the guests, as well as picking up/cleaning up as the night goes.

We do not have a preference in regards to age or race - anyone is welcome to submit interest and be considered. For reference, our oldest server was in his late 50s (although with the physical condition he was in, he could pass for early 40s) and our youngest server was 18 - in his freshman year in college. Candidates will be selected primarily based on their personality/conversational abilities (as picked up through email exchanges), and more importantly - how they look - inside and out of clothes (please note our attire for male servers at this event).

Attire : Last year's party, we had male waiters working the party while wearing jockstraps. This year, we're stepping things up a notch by deciding that the male server attire will simply be a "Santa" hat, black/red bowtie and a waistpouch (to hold cash tips) - while everything else "hangs out" - in other words, male servers will need to be comfortable working the party nude (see the CFNM theme). We expect around 100 to 120 guests at our party this year, so you should be comfortable being nude around that many ladies. No one is getting frisky at the party - but we definitely want some eye candy - and guys who are comfortable with that idea and being in the nude will be strong contenders to be hired. You WILL be handsomely compensated in exchange for working in this "exposed" state.

Our end-of-the-year Holiday Party is our most elegant CFNM-themed event each year, and as such, with the fee guests pay to attend, we are able to offer a higher hourly rate to our servers than our other events throughout the year. Pay is $50 per hour + any tips you may make while serving the guests. You are paid CASH at the end of your shift. This is a great opportunity for a side gig on the weekend - maybe you're saving up to pay for holiday gifts for your family/friends/significant other or just need some extra cash to pay some bills! If you are able to work all seven hours for the entire shift, we'll toss in an additional $50 bonus. In other words, if you can work the full shift, you will be guaranteed at least $400 CASH which includes the hourly pay and the $50 bonus. Any tips you earn during your shift is yours to keep. In addition, if you do work the full shift, you will also receive a 30-minute paid "break" in between, where you can help yourself to a catered meal.

Guests will be ladies in their mid-20s to late 50s- dress code will be eveningwear or cocktail dresses. Again, this is NOT a dating scene or networking event, you're here to serve the guests and make sure they have a great time, not flirt with them. Your primary focus will be guest service and satisfaction - not whether you can snag their digits =P.

We're aiming for Sunday evening, December 18th for the Holiday party. The party itself is about 7 hours (5pm to 12 midnight we're thinking, subject to change) - and will be held at a private residence (Address will be provided upon confirmation). If you are unable to stay the entire time, but can at least work 4 hours, we can still consider you. We will be making hiring decisions as we get closer to the party date. We are looking to hire 11 to 15 guys for this event.

If you'd like to be considered - please send a head to toe front/back nude shot - this is so we can determine whether you'd be a good fit to staff our party. Again, hired staff will simply wear a "Santa" hat but let everything else "hang out", so you should be comfortable with your body image and being nude around 100-120 clothed women who will be attending the party. Please be sure you understand the server attire (described in full detail above, before you submit interest. Server attire is not negotiable). Also include your name, age, physical stats and preferred contact method (phone # or email) as well. For your privacy, all photos submitted will be used solely to consider you for the gig and will be deleted after view. If you have worked (not just applied) for any of our events in the past, please indicate that in your submission as you will have priority consideration.


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As I've posted, I've been developing a manual on how to plan a CFNM party. A few years back, I began by posting a survey on Craigslist, various Internet dating sites, and forums. The intent wasn't to target folks that are into sex parties, kinky fetishes, but instead, target a broad cross-section of the U.S. seeking input from anyone that might be interested. I posted within various sections of Craigslist including the relationships section, community events, etc. The invite was not blatantly sexual, but used the concept of a cheeky but risque type of fun party reinforcing that they were not sex parties, nor would any female nudity be allowed. I'd receive emails from those interested, and then send them a link to a professional survey account I'd purchased from Suverymonkey.com. The introduction page to the survey presented the concept of CFNM, what it was about, and, that if folks were interested in taking the survey, they'd be redirected at the end to where the survey results could be downloaded, and, be on a recipient list for upcoming events.

Once completed, surveymonkey is able to identify the signatures of computers and disallow repeating the survey. In addition, early in the survey, when someone responded to their gender as M or F, some, but not all, of the subsequent pages would be targeting responses from their gender. This was not told them early on, but just happened automatically. When recipient emails were provided, it allowed me to audit and follow up with respondents. I was pleased to find out those posting as women really were women. I had phone calls with many, and ended up meeting in person many as well. In fact, one woman I met was an attractive blonde who wanted to be the hostess of a CFNM party in San Diego, and I ended up in a relationship with her that spanned several months.

Again note - the survey results below are NOT tied to any one segment of the female population (ergo, BDSM/femdoms, swingers, etc), but instead an open, public solicitation of female interests in CFNM gatherings. One cannot, nor should not, take their responses as to how women feel about CFNM because excluded from the survey was the broader female population that simply didn't take it for whatever reason. It only includes responses from those women interested in CFNM enough to take the survey.

Suffice it to say, I did get some hate mail from repressed, bible-thumping women, and, some dating sites and Craigslist would delete the postings due to complaints. However, despite those few, there was an outpouring of interest from what I call "sexually liberated women".

The survey computer system automatically puts in bold the highest percentage responses:

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After a while, I began posting in fetish forums and blogs, and I guess my name was already recognized as many forum participants knew who I was, and that I'd created CFNM. I then began to get inquiries from both men and women interested in CFNM gatherings. Interestingly, it is virtually always the same:

Common inquiries from females: "I'm interested in getting involved in starting CFNM parties in my area, can you help me?"

Common inquiries from males: "Where is a CFNM party near me?" - or - "I want to come to your CFNM party, where is it?"

The difference is that the females wanted to make it happen. The men showed selfishness and laziness in that they always wanted everyone else to do the work for them and they show up with dick in hand.

I eventually posted this on my blogs (please, no lectures on copyright infringement - it's just a silly informal add, not the cover):

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I've interviewed and chatted in person with hundreds of women over the years about CFNM party activities. I usually don't bother with men as their fantasies are pretty standard, but have no basis in reality in that they've never been to a CFNM party and thus don't know what women want, and, just because it is THEIR fantasy doesn't mean it would be appropriate for CFNM parties as it is ALWAYS the females that set the agenda.

The section of the manual for CFNM party activities was based on female input as to each and every activity. As of now, Chapter 5 - Suggested CFNM Party Games and Activities is 46 pages long and growing. It is from their stories and interests that I posted the one above.

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I also highly enjoyed the stories and reading that survey. I like that over 60% of the women explicitly stated they reveled in the the unfair "we can see you but you can't see us" role reversal, and over 65% said they were looking for polite (nude) servitude from the men.

Have you ever seen or heard of anyone experiencing "post orgasm regret", where it felt good, but as soon as they came in front everyone, they regretted it?


Yes, me.

The event was the first CFNM gathering, you can read the story on the old forum replete with photos. Prior to the event, one of the women, Angela, desperately wanted to watch the men jack off. I always assumed, and wrongfully, that women weren't into the visual pleasure of that as much as men were. For her, I was clearly wrong.

At the time, she was in her upper 40s, and had a strong personalty. I wouldn't say she was into female domination, but was a woman that knew what she wanted and was unafraid to tell others. She had a younger friend, Linda, that had a very attractive figure, and they tantalized me with photos of her at the beach in a two piece. During the pre-party chatter back and forth, and, a personal meeting with her at Starbucks to discuss things, she asked "will I get to see naked men jacking off?". And I was like "Sure! You'll have a great time". She suggested a game where targets were set up and the men had to shoot their cum at the bulls-eye and the ladies would score. As she told this to me at Starbucks, I caught out of the corner of my eye some customers looking at us. I'm laughing with her because I know I'd seen such fantasies posted on forums, and the whole concept was so absurd. I was like "Yeah, right!" thinking it was all just fun talk. I NEVER thought that activity was such a big deal for her or any other women. I just assumed that fantasizing about that type of a CFNM experience was only a man's fantasy, inclusive of the act, the embarrassment, etc.

But it WAS equally as much a fantasy for her - in all the aspects of it that the men on this forum had fantasized about. I found out it was the one thing she was wanting to experience more than any other -- to demand (not ask) the naked man/men in attendance to obey her and openly masturbate to a climax while she and others watched, and all done in a CFNM scenario (ergo, "haha! we can see you but you cant's see us"!). For her, it was the confluence of the empowerment - she was clothed, men were naked, her prurient desire to view naked men, her ability to closely observe something very private and intimate men never discuss let alone show anyone, and the ability to inflict humiliation onto the man/men doing it in a manner that puts the female victoriously over the male.

The story is retold from start to finish here - it is absolutely true without any embellishment.

http://www.sensations4women.com/mStrip/index.html

The issue was that this was the first CFNM party ever, and a lot of the women and men were reluctant about it. Some of the females simply wanted to tease the men and were not expecting to see one of the naked men openly jack off. Further, no other men were doing it, I was alone.

It was one of the most complicated, intense moments of my life. On the one hand, it was the fulfillment of a fantasy that some of us dream about. The other women had to have recognized I was simply complying to the females' demands, not instigating it myself. But on the other hand, I did something that I had never done in front of anyone else - yes, I'd had girls giving me handjobs and I helped finish it of, but I had never openly masturbated from start to finish in front of an audience. Further, that audience was large, and 100% of the women were clothed while I was stark naked. I also felt some homophobic issues with some of the men, sort of like "fuck, this naked dude is jacking off in front of me, this is awkward...".

During the masturbation, I was sitting on the sand trying to turn away from the crowd, and I now know she recognized my wanting to have at least some level of being discrete, because as I came, she yelled at the top of her lungs (read the write-up link) as if to blow a horn announcing it for the world. Her raspy laughter (she smoked) sounded more like she was laughing at me than a joyfully celebrating the moment with me...I dunno... I had just started ejaculating - a lot - and so everyone's attention was turned on me at the height of my cumming and were able to see what I was doing, and, witness multiple more explosions of my sperm up into the air coming down all over me and the sand. EVERYONE saw it. Ladies had turned to see the result and stood their watching the sperm drip off my naked balls.

After I came, it was weird. I was too embarrassed to fully enjoy the post orgasm bliss we always have. Further, the woman knew this was coming for me, and relished in my humiliation as much as the fun in watching (which was why she was yelling and making fun as I came - to assure everyone there was watching the moment, even laughing *at* me). But some of the females loved it, some emailed me afterward wanting to meet me on a private one-on-one romantic tryst -- I learned that when a woman sees a man doing something so intimate it can became a huge attraction for them. Yet other females simply avoided eye contact. I was embarrassed, humiliated and yet excited all at the same time.

Recently, I was approached by a woman orchestrating a CFNM party in Texas (see reference above) and I relayed this story to her. She loved hearing it and told me that at her event, requiring the men to masturbate themselves in front of the women was a "must".

If you want, I'll cut and paste the whole exchange I had with her regarding this.

The take away here is this - all women are different. Guys that think that the same erotic enjoyment men on this forum have with CFNM, including any double-standard, embarrassment, etc, is only fantasized about by men are wrong. I've learned the reason there aren't more women into it is that they simply have never been introduced to it in the right way, which I was able to do at the first CFNM party. In fact, those women I introduced to it and have experienced it often wanted CFNM parties to be a regularly scheduled event as it meets latent unanswered desires many women have, and once is not enough.

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Here I am with Angela (left) and Linda (right) has they hold my cock and balls as though it's a trophy. It was just moments before Angela issued a demand for me to masturbate. You can barely see a woman next to her, which was Denise, who was also an exotic dancer I met on match.com. Denise's match.com profile was pretty normal, as was she...she just danced for a living, and, loved the concept of CFNM. Her roommate was also a dancer and even more beautiful, and, wanted to come, but unfortunately was going to a party in N. Cal. that weekend. The photo is taken by Amethyst, a woman that was also an officer in the navy in San Diego. I met Amethyst in one of the cam chatrooms (ICUII). She would never undress yet love to get on cams and watch men get naked and masturbate. I knew she liked the female-empowerment of CFNM, so when I started to organize the party, she was like "HELL YES!".


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This was the photo of Linda Angela emailed me, with "can Linda come too, she really wants to!" Uh, fuck yeah Angela. Linda was making out with me and started to stroke me right at the moment Angela told me to masturbate, and Linda said "I'm not going to do it, you have to jack yourself off."


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This is Candice, who was supposed to come, but called at the last minute backing out due to a family matter. She would go to future CFNM parties. As you can see, she's hot as Hell.


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Here's a photo of some of the CFNM party participants. You can see Denise in the background (the one sitting next to Angela, Linda and me above).

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jabtome wrote:
Amazing! I was familiar with that party but not all those specifics. Yes I would love to read that exchange about the Texas CFNM party, please post it.


joystick2 wrote:
So would I! Please post your exchange with the CFNM woman from Texas.


Mobius wrote:
I completely agree !



Okay, you got it!

I had a profile on another forum with many CFNM party photos posted. A lady had clicked on the "I Love it" icon next to several, which I found alluring, thus I sent her a PM. Here were the photos she loved:
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Ordinarily, I'd not post her photo; however, she is not being reserved about her events, but instead, open and is presently bringing on board interested participants. But for now, I'll call her "Ms. T".

Ms. T enjoys female domination, but, not in the vein of S&M, humiliation, etc. This means her events will not be about humiliation or impact play (ergo, ball busting, face slapping, caning), but instead, they will focus on the joy of having naked men serve and bring delight to an empowered group of clothed women. The page that announces her gatherings quote me in a number of places, and references cfnmvillage.com - mainly the The CFNM Story.

Here are some photos of this beautiful woman:
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The following, which took place over 4 months, is edited to take out personal references and situations. Also, it is only part of our conversations as we have also been emailing back and forth outside of the PMs. I'm presenting this to you such that you can all see how these parties evolve, and that yes, there really are women that are as into CFNM parties as the men that want them. It's all about taking the initiative, which I did so long ago in organizing the first ones. If you want to attend one in your area, it's the old "build it and they will come" because you'll not likely be invited to one wherein others have had to put the work into getting them going. Guys sitting on their butts wanting to be invited to one always do just that -- sit on their butts..


Brad (first message to Ms. T 4 months ago):

Hello Ms. T,

I saw you liked a number of photos tied to CFNM. As you may have noted from my profile, I was the creator of the acronym back in the 1990s when the Internet was advancing kinks of all kinds. I love your profile, and you are tremendously sexy! ;) I also like the fact you're in [Texas], where I spent much of my life. I'd love to chat with you sometime. May I friend you?

Ms T: Hi, thank you and sure, I love all the ideas I got from your pics and wrote them down in my kink journal. I'm a fan of CFNM and hosted my first CFNM event a few weeks ago. It was a tiny get together with just my favorite play partner serving and entertaining me and three friends with a tea party theme. We all had a most excellent time and I've been asked repeatedly when I'll be hosting another event with more people. I'm seriously considering starting a CFNM group. I haven't discovered one yet, and there seems to be quite a bit of interest in it. I need to look up how to play Blind Man's Bluff. I've heard of the game, but don't recall the rules.

Cheers,
Ms. T

Brad: Cool! I'm glad you're interested in CFNM. My first CFNM experience was in Austin at Hippy Hollow. I met up with a group of coeds from UT - they remained clothed but I was nude. It was erotic - the feeling of vulnerability and inequity was exhilarating. They liked it too ;) I've been writing a manual on hosting CFNM parties. It's a long way from being complete, and I may just end up publishing it on my website http://www.cfnmvillage.com If you're interested, Chapter 5 is about suggested CFNM party games and activities. It's in PDF form, and if you want a copy, I can email it to you. If so, shoot me your email.

Ms. T: I did see that you were working on a 'man'ual, (Ha) and that would be fantastic if you would send me the chapter 5 pdf. XXXXX@xxx.com is my kink email account.

Brad: Hey there! Sorry I've been unable to respond to your email about CFNM gatherings and venues. I've been rewriting sections of the manuscript - it's quite a challenge proofing one's own work. I'm condensing it, making it clearer and less a compilation of random thoughts. So how have you been?

Ms. T: Hi there! Life is dynamic; I don't sweat it when people are living their lives before becoming enslaved to the virtual world. Thank you for your courtesy, though; I do appreciate it :). I'm looking forward to reading the next chapters, and will read the stickies, too. I should have thought to look there. If you like, I will make note of any typos I run across in the chapters and send a list to you.

Brad: I certainly appreciate any comments about typos,but more importantly, it helps to hear a woman's thoughts on things. Unfortunately, so much what I get are from men, or responses from women that in reality also have penises ;) The women that have provided me insights have really made the thoughts and recommendations far more compelling for those women interested. I saw some of your likes on my profile's photos, which i assume were activities you might enjoy. I'd be interested in here the specific other activities you'd like...aside from have your car detailed by the naked guys (that's a given!). Also, please visit my site http://www.cfnmvillage.com, as it has some great possibilities for regional-specific CFNM gatherings. we can discuss more later.

Ms. T: Is Red Rover listed among your games? I don't recall seeing it, but I skimmed over a few of the pages and just read titles of games I was already familiar with. Don't know if it would be all that fun in reality, but it might be. In case you're not familiar, there are two lines of people/ teams, with team members holding hands. There needs to be several yards of distance between the opposing teams. Team A would call out to team B, "Red Rover, Red Rover, send Brad right over!" Then you would have to run from your team to team A and try to break through team A's line (you choose where). If you can't break the line, they keep you on their team. If you do break the line, you get to go back to your team (and maybe even take someone from that team with you...it's been a thousand years since I played this game as a kid!). I do think I would enjoy seeing naked fellas running back and forth and trying to crash into my arms, though. ;P

An adaptation to the ring toss, if it hasn't been done yet (probably has, but mentioning just in case), would be to add complexity. Instead of just one guy, have several at different distances so that more points/ CFNM $ are earned depending on which pole is rung, so to speak.

Brad:Red Rover is an interesting idea - perhaps instead of holding hands you could hold..hmmmmmmm LOL!

I like the variation of the ring toss too. Rather than having just one guy, all the men could participate making it a game for everyone attending. Lots of variations - different color rings designate different guys, or, if a guy does not, well, present a large target his pole could be added points? ;)))

This brings up a topic that is often top of spirited conversations about CFNM events, and that is, whether it is desirable to have the men openly masturbating. Of course, for guys to get hard to play ring toss or other games/contests, they'd have to be continually and openly jacking themselves off. Some dommes despise that. In the CFNM forum, many of the dommes feel such displays are undesirable.

Conversely, other women (and our survey confirmed a majority) think that men self-pleasuring themselves for the females' viewing fun would be a desirable activity at CFNM gatherings with it varying from simply having the men do it when requested to actually having contests (but I know of no such contests at CFNM gatherings yet).

As a guy, I know most guys (again, survey confirms the majority) are embarrassed or intimidated by even discussing they masturbate with a woman let alone doing it openly in front of a group, thus not only proving to the ladies they do, but to demonstrate to them just how they do it. But then, that embarrassment is often the very reason a lot women like to have the men openly do it - sort of an additional mind game/power-control the clothed women have over the naked men...which when I think about it, is a perfectly appropriate reason that compliments well the underlying intent of CFNM.

I have personally been a "victim" at a CFNM party of women very forcefully telling me they wanted me to jack myself off in front of them (multiple ladies) so they could watch me. I at first said no and was resistant. But as their requests turned into stern demands, to appease them, I did. But I was nervous and self-conscious as I did...sort of like an ice bath and the thoughts in my head were that I couldn't believe I was doing it!

But their cheers and loud laughter as I came (which drew attention from every female at the party) made it clear they thoroughly enjoyed it, and despite my very much not wanting to do it, understanding that female pleasure should always supersede a man's insecurity and embarrassment at a CFNM party made me realize that how it all come down was the exactly right way it should have. The sequence of how it happened, from their original request and my initial rejection - to their forcefully demanding it (due to an earlier email promise they'd see it during the event) it and my reluctant acquiescence the full compliance - followed by their jubilation and my embarrassment - was the exact way a CFNM gathering should go, and in retrospect I'm very glad it happened that way. It went down was appropriate and demonstrated to everyone there what CFNM is all about, and seeing their joy was the sole yet best reward for me in complying, and made it a win-win success for all.

It helps me to know what women think as I continue my writings. What are your thoughts as to this type of activity? What sexy things would you want (or not want) at a CFNM gathering?

Ms. T: Oh wow! Red Rover holding onto your jiggly bits tightly enough to prevent other players from breaking the line would be a fun option for the fellas into impact play, or at least those who enjoy a significant amount of pain! I love it :lol:

Regarding the boys masturbating, thats a must as far as I'm concerned! Of course, I'm a voyeur, and I like boys, so that only goes to follow. My main play partner introduced me to a fun game called Red Light, Green Light. I tell him when to start...and when to stop touching himself, and continue doing so until I want to see him cum. The same thing can be done with a Hitachi Magic Wand, or the like.

I don't think there is a "one size fits all" formula for much of anything in life, including CFNM events, and each host should be expected to put their own spin or flair on it, while remaining true to the basic tenets of CFNM. If you {the general you, not specifically you) get mired in minutuae, you'll take all the fun right out of it, in my opinion.

What I would want or not want at a given CFNM event depends entirely on the size of the event and who all would be in attendance. Sounds like a cop-out, right? Maybe, but what I would want for an event in my casita doesn't have much in common with what I would want at an event at a big venue where some of the outdoor games would be possible.

If it's a CFnm event, I think some of the men should help the hosts of the event set up the party; how many would be determined by the size of the event and what was needed. They could get favors or rewards if/as deemed appropriate by their Mistresses.

That's all I've got for you so far...
Ciao!

Brad:Lovely! I love your way of thinking, very much mirrors mine.

SO....here is something I've truly wanted more than any other. Ready?? Naked Iron Chef. I REALLY would love to compete with other guys (naked) in the kitchen. I have certain dishes that I think would convince the ladies I have some REAL talent.

I have this garlic Szechwan pork dish that mesmerizes. I grow my own basil, and make a bruschetta that turns women into jelly in my hands. I also make a barbeque sauce I used with smoked ribs that would rival the Salt Lick. Of course, an apron is a must if I'm in front of hot flames!

Thanks for your Internet friendship and response. I enjoy reading your thoughts :)

Ms. T: Thank you for adding the apron...literally laughing out loud!! I read a comment recently about someone burning his jiggly bits because he was frying food naked. That's just silly! As long as there is an apron involved, I think that is a FABULOUS idea. It would be easy enough to get several electric hot plates, griddles, and woks that could be plugged in and set up at someone's house who had a really big kitchen island (a lot of the parties around here are done in private homes, and The Community Place kitchen isn't well equipped or laid out for that sort of thing, but could work).

I also enjoy our correspondence and online friendship Brad. Thank you for the compliments, too. I always appreciate sincere kindness.
Cheers,

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jabtome wrote:
She's creative, confident, into CFNM, and is gorgeous AF. I would love to read more such interactions when possible.

By the way, the reason I asked you about post orgasmic regret is because I've often had fantasies like what you experienced. Whenever I finish though I think "Oh my God, I'm glad that wasn't real or I'd be mortified". I've written before about my fantasies of embarrassment and love the idea of the women laughing at me while I wank, but I think that I'd get lost in the moment and regret what I did.

This is one of the best threads I've read on here and would love to hear more.


You're very insightful. You can discern clearly between fantasy and reality without having to experience that transition. What I did not expect was that women too have CFNM humiliation fantasies. That is, women really do get erotically aroused by not only having a very unfair advantage over men due to their being clothed while the men are completely naked, but to take it even further forcing a naked man to also be psychologically and emotionally naked as well by having him to something in front of them he ordinarily would never discuss let alone show others...only to then exploit that vulnerability by laughing and bringing everyone's attention to him at the moment he cums solely to relish in making him as embarrassed (humiliated?) as possible. The quandary for me was reconciling how this woman on the one hand was sexually attracted to my nudity (she kept playing with my dick telling her friend she wanted to suck it right there) yet on the other hand embarrassed me in that way after I was obedient to her demands?

This is thus the ultimate test for men into CFNM gatherings, which is, do you kowtow to such demands of the women embracing their empowerment by proving their interests supersede that of the men? Do you be the "good boy" and obey to prove to them you honor their elevated status? Or, does a guy simply go and do what's in his best interest at any time while trying to get one of the ladies in the sack?

That is the question...

You're right in that that moment was not what I ended up expecting, but was confusing as I was conflicted by the feelings of an orgasmic high through realization of that fantasy versus actual humiliation in front of so many people, which was brutal on my ego.

But still, I vote for the former, because in having a female-first doctrine always placing the feminine interests above that of the men, you'll end up drawing more women to the event and a more balanced gender ratio. The latter approach by men only results in fewer women coming, no pun intended.

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