Ah, this is definitely something I struggle with when I'm looking for CFNM fiction.
Because a lot of online amateur erotica is written by people who are writing out their own sexual fantasies, quite a lot of it can be rather extreme. For people who enjoy CFNM for a humiliation aspect, well... As a woman who enjoys CFNM as the CF, I find it difficult to enjoy when it goes into such extreme levels.
My way of interacting with a NM is loving, caring, and gentle. I may tease, but I'm more about physical affection and coos of appreciation and encouragement. For me, my actions with the NM as the CF are what might make him enjoy being naked around me. Yes, part of it is that I enjoy him being naked, but the only reason he's naked is because he wants to be and we talked it out beforehand. To me, consent and healthy communication with another person are ironclad rules when it comes to sexual or naked situations.
So when I read the more extreme CFNM stories, I can't really enjoy them. I can't relate to the male protagonist because I'm not a submissive and I can't relate to the two-dimensional hive-minded amoral female characters because I'm not a criminal. I understand it's just a personal fantasy they're putting to paper, but I just can't enjoy it. I try to avoid such stories by paying close attention to things like genre or tags on online erotica sites so that I don't rain on anyone's parade.
That said, I've found the occasional CFNM fiction that is consensual and gentle. They're rare, but they exist.
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