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 Post subject: New York City
PostPosted: Sun Jan 20, 2019 9:08 pm 
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Does anyone know of any CFNM (non-BDSM) events in NYC or the surrounding area? I would love to participate, or at least help organize and be present to watch the fun. Thanks!


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 Post subject: Re: New York City
PostPosted: Sat Jan 26, 2019 8:48 am 
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There are two groups on Fetlife: CFNM NYC and the Taillor Group. CFNM NYC has parties every week and all the events with the Taillor group are cfnm.


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 Post subject: Re: New York City
PostPosted: Sat Feb 09, 2019 3:05 pm 
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coldsilvermoon wrote:
Does anyone know of any CFNM (non-BDSM) events in NYC or the surrounding area? I would love to participate, or at least help organize and be present to watch the fun. Thanks!


You should join fetlife.com and just do a search. I see parties posted there a lot.


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 Post subject: Re: New York City
PostPosted: Mon Feb 11, 2019 11:38 am 
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coldsilvermoon wrote:
Does anyone know of any CFNM (non-BDSM) events in NYC or the surrounding area? I would love to participate, or at least help organize and be present to watch the fun. Thanks!


You should join fetlife.com and just do a search. I see parties posted there a lot.


Unquestionably, Fetlife.com presents the greatest opportunity for either finding or starting a CFNM party in one's area, regardless of what country you're in. However, the vast majority are female domination (D/s) variety, which is often identified as CFnm as opposed to CFNM.

Common themes are CFNM tea parties, which are subdued, little in the way of erotic interaction and mostly about naked subs serving the dommes food, beverages and other services with little attention paid the men. Alternatively, there are hardcore BDSM CFnm parties replete with the nude men being degraded and humiliated inclusive of corporal punishment and such activities as small penis humiliation. One domme in San Francisco hosted her "Ballbusting Olympics", which entirely focused on the clothed dommes kicking the naked men in their balls.

But there are CFNM gatherings of the original/traditional design, that is, the clothed women are there to enjoy the exploration of the naked men's bodies absent any expectation of sex. Although infrequent, these CFNM parties include such things as body painting and art comprise a large part of it. One of our Village's very infrequent moderators in fact hosts some down in the New Orleans area.

You should have an understanding of what you want before attending any.

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 Post subject: Re: New York City
PostPosted: Mon Feb 11, 2019 6:17 pm 
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coldsilvermoon wrote:
Does anyone know of any CFNM (non-BDSM) events in NYC or the surrounding area? I would love to participate, or at least help organize and be present to watch the fun. Thanks!


The CFNM events in New York that I am aware of are hosted by dominant women and are BDSM oriented. These include the Taillor group workshops in Brooklyn as someone mentioned. You don’t have to participate. Men can attend as “CFNM voyeurs “. They are required to be naked.


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 12, 2019 10:41 am 
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Does anyone know of any CFNM (non-BDSM) events in NYC or the surrounding area? I would love to participate, or at least help organize and be present to watch the fun. Thanks!


The CFNM events in New York that I am aware of are hosted by dominant women and are BDSM oriented. These include the Taillor group workshops in Brooklyn as someone mentioned. You don’t have to participate. Men can attend as “CFNM voyeurs “. They are required to be naked.


One of the drawbacks of BDSM CFNM is that in many of the Fetlife groups, the women aren't just dominant, they are professional dominatrices. I have no problem with this vocation, just as I have no problem with prostitution provided it's in a controlled and safe environment (of course, pro dommes hate the comparison, but for me, both are selling erotic experiences to men to satiate the men's sexual drives).

I've been in debates with many men on Fetlife and elsewhere when they post the types of experiences and activities that occur at CFNM parties but in truth, they're only experience are those they have paid a dominatrix to give them. They claim it's what the "clothed ladies" want but cannot/will not acknowledge that what the ladies *really* want is money, and they create an experience they know the men will pay for. To me, this is no different than claiming CFNM porn videos depict reality, which again is far from it. They might claim that at a CFNM party, the women keep you in a cage and only let you out to humiliate you about your small penis, whip your butt for it, then send you back into the cage. Uh, sorry Fred, that's not what happens in real CFNM parties.

Fortunately, the ladies that are truly into CFNM or CFnm gatherings on many of these discussion boards usually weigh in and tell the guy his version of CFNM is not reality, but instead a contrived experience created to take his money. They also tell such men that in real CFNM parties, they'd not have any interest in the activities that male patrons of pro dommes are into.

For me - I want the real thing and to know the women are there to experience and enjoy CFNM, not because they are hired to pretend to do that.

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 Post subject: Re: New York City
PostPosted: Tue Feb 26, 2019 12:28 pm 
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Thanks for the responses! I am on Fetlife and have looked st the Taillors site, but I’m not into BDSM, and those are heavily geared toward that. I also don’t want to pay a “pro” to do CFNM. I would love to do the standard, not overtly sexual CFNM parties that Brad describes. I’m sure we could find plenty of willing female participants in the NYC area. I wouldn’t mind organizing just to watch other guys in that situation. Hit me up if you know of any or want to organize with me!


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 Post subject: Re: New York City
PostPosted: Sat Mar 02, 2019 9:47 am 
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Fetlife is a great place to find listings and talk to like-minded people.

Remember too, that not all dommes are pro dommes. There are loads of amateur dominant women on fetlife, and from my understanding, they are some of the many attendees. Sometimes the run is created by a pro-domme, but most of the participants -- male and female -- are amateurs. Once through the door, nobody is paying the clothed women to engage with them. A professionally run party doesn't necessarily make it any less "authentic."

From what I've read, there are also less intense BDSM parties, and ones where all the subs wear color-coded wrist bands to let the other participants know what experience they're looking for.

Personally, I don't think any expression of CFNM is more valid than any other. It's a tool in the power exchange toolbox. Like spanking or handcuffs or just playing servant. Use it to whatever ends you want.


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 Post subject: Re: New York City
PostPosted: Mon Mar 04, 2019 12:45 pm 
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There are a number of clubs in London where pro dommes go but also normal vanilla girls as they call them. One in particular is called club pedestal. Groups of women from around London go their for a laugh and all the men have to be subservient, it says no nudity but in fact i have read reviews have talked about guys erections etc. Another which is a micx but more pro dommes is club blackwhip.

club pedeatl review http://198.1.75.249/GraziaPress.pdf

you can see in these pictures cock is on display for the ladies
http://198.1.75.249/viewImage.html?even ... t&image=94
http://198.1.75.249/viewImage.html?even ... e&image=18
http://198.1.75.249/viewImage.html?event=1207&image=7

club blackwhip is much more hardcore and guys will be actually humiliated quite badly there ...made to dance naked, get pegged and sometimes suck cock for the women to have a good laugh

This is one such event where there about 50 attendees and the guys are shagged one at a time by the domme whilst the women have a good laugh

https://xhamster.com/videos/strapon-fuc ... t2-6405771

other pictures of more hardcore activities. Some of its male on male
https://clubblackwhip.co.uk/wp-content/ ... /jan46.jpg
https://clubblackwhip.co.uk/wp-content/ ... ouched.jpg
https://clubblackwhip.co.uk/wp-content/ ... c_0017.jpg
https://clubblackwhip.co.uk/wp-content/ ... c_0051.jpg
https://clubblackwhip.co.uk/wp-content/ ... c_0432.jpg


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 Post subject: Re: New York City
PostPosted: Mon Mar 04, 2019 3:33 pm 
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coldsilvermoon wrote:
Does anyone know of any CFNM (non-BDSM) events in NYC or the surrounding area? I would love to participate, or at least help organize and be present to watch the fun. Thanks!


You could try advertising on and/or searching Craigslist in your area. Might get lucky.

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