jwproductions wrote:
Very interesting Brad. But why call the forum Visual Sensations for Women, was is specifically targeted towards women? How large was the female audience for VSFW? And what personally inspired you to become a fan of CFNM?
That's probably the most relevant question I've ever been asked about VSFW and more importantantly, CFNM.
When I formed VSFW, the whole purpose was to create an introduction to CFNM for women more so than men. I believed at that time, and still do, that if women were properly introduced to the concept - that is - a scenario where they could enjoy the visual sensations of being surrounded by naked men, all on their terms with their consent and absent any expectation of sex or and female nudity, they would gravitate towards it. The title was meant to attract those women.
The original purpose of VSFW was first and foremost to provide that introduction such that real-world CFNM gatherings could ensue. To that end, it was initially successful, and if you go to our home webpage of VSFW (still there), you will see photos of the first official "CFNM" gathering hosted on an unused stretch of beach that is clothing-optional friendly:
http://www.sensations4women.com/mStrip/index.html- and -
http://www.sensations4women.com/fmparty/index.htmlThe first CFNM event was done right upon the release of the 1997 film "The Full Monty", and we used some of the same musical score from that film on a separate discussion forum for those coming (never posted on VSFW for reasons discussed below). That film was perfectly timed in that it was a mainstream film all women could relate to while capturing the theme and intent of such a CFNM party with little need of convincing the ladies as they already "got it". The essence of our party was that where the final scene of The Full Monty closed (men stripping the last piece of clothing and exposing their manhood to the audience) was where I parties began. And the promotion of our event worked, we had a bout 50 people sign up with most coming - about half were women.
But VSFW taught us a lesson about current day use of the Internet, particularly as it pertains to erotica. Virtually all forums that focus upon erotic/sexual themes are proliferated by men. It is NOT just CFNM, but ANY form of sexual erotica. I could list hundreds of sexually related forums, billboards, community groups, etc, -- dealing with BDSM, oral sex, orgies, multiple partners, public nudity, potty kinks, leather whips, on and on -- and 100% of them would evidence a majority of its members are men. And yes, I know, "studies show" this-or-that about how women are just as interested in Internet porn as are men. I could also add that one study showed that 87% of all studies are full of shit. Further, despite all those that challenge claims that women are less sexually excited from visual stimulation, after 20 years of studying it, I have come to the absolute conclusion that women are NOT nearly as visually excited as men. Women are equally if not more visual than men insofar as observing and appreciating clothing, decorations, makeup, flowers...but when it comes to sexual stimulation from visual sensations, they are (in general) far, far less aroused than men - fact - and any man that argues to the contrary needs to turn off his computer, quit wasting time on forums like this one to gain their vast capacity of wisdom (sarcasm) and actually talk to women about it. I have - thousands of times. And any study that states otherwise is rubbish, because there are many more studies that prove women are less visually excited. One can blame it on evolution, sexual orientation or hard wiring, regardless, it's a fact and explains why women aren't all over this forum downloading CFNM pix and flix.
What eventually occurred with VSFW is what occurs with all such forums. They become a conduit for men to swap their daily fodder for masturbating, which includes sexual imagery - both photos and videos - as well as the opportunity to vicariously relive (or create) a sexual fantasy by writing about it. And if such a forum gets enough foot traffic by its male members, it become the focus of financial opportunity - first by spammers, then by sellers of porn that cater to such male fantasies. VSFW was the ignition point for a lot of CFNM porn produced initially by a couple of British companies, then it spread across all spectrums of porn producers.
But despite all this, there are
many, many women interested in CFNM gatherings. It's just that it has to be on their terms, and done in a way that makes them feel comfortable in attending. I've learned what that is, but they are concepts most male members of the CFNM Village could not understand as their entire understanding of CFNM is from a male perspective, reinforced by their interaction with other men that share the same male-oriented fantasies of CFNM.
Finally, this website I created,
CFNM Village, is still an unfulfilled promise. It aspires to once again accomplish the mission I originally had for a website and CFNM created back in the 1990s. I've been in communications with a number of women extremely interested in CFNM, some of whom have already orchestrated CFNM parties. We're in discussions about how to use this website as a way station for those seeking real-life CFNM encounters. This could include a "how-to" library, educational materials, full profiles of real CFNM players, discussion of actual parties as well as advertisements to upcoming parties, and, separate discussion forums for real players. One such woman is on the board of a sexual seminar group in San Francisco, and she has asked me to be a keynote speaker at some of their seminars. It would include a lot of women, who in turn could help out with furthering the mission of the Village.
Unfortunately for many of the members of this forum we would have to set entry barriers as to who gets into some of the sub-pages and discussion forums elsewhere on this site as most would attempt to turn it back into a male-only fantasy posting board and a way to PM real women messages so they could wank off to it. It would be exclusive to real people seeking real encounters, who would eventually have to drop a part of their veil of anonymity - at least as it pertains to certain personal information such as age, gender, location, interests, their photos and their location.
So that's a loooong answer, but I believe an important response as it has to do with the fundamental mission of
CFNM Village.
Wow, this is so fascinating. And impressive. One could easily imagine a documentary about the concept of CFNM, using your journey as a focal point and anchor. It contains so many general-interest themes that pertain to porn, erotica, and even dating sites (it calls the story of Bumble to mind). Along with some nostalgia about the early days of the internet...
Having seen so much CFNM content for years, it's unexpected - and subversive - to learn that the "father of CFNM" who catalyzed it all was actually genuinely interested in the female's perspective.
If I knew any good documentarians (I don't), I'd recommend them. But I'll keep this in mind in case, and I'd suggest other site-goers do the same.
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